Friday, August 20, 2010

Plenty more fish in the sea.....

Who in the world came up with that phrase? Not only is it not helpful, it's straight on misleading! The last thing you want to think of when you just broke up with someone is that there are plenty more out there to break up with later on, and usually when someone uses that phrase, you don't want anyone else.

Well, and yes, it's misleading and a big fat lie! There might be plenty of men/women out there, but the main part of them are either small baby-fish that are too young, old toothless fish that are.. well too old, or big bully fish that you have to try and avoid - maybe even poisonous! The few good and proper aged ones are either on someone else's hook, or darn rare!

It feels more like trying to find a vacant pool of fish to fish in during the Kaluak fishing derby ( sorry, very nerdy reference), than having your pick among prizewinning salmons.. And we all know that it's not like they jump out of the water and into your lap by themselves... Catching a big one takes time and patience - no wonder why so many of us keep the little ones we catch because we're afraid another one wont bite ever again.. so sitting patiently on the dock, waiting for the big one to come along seems hopeless.. and if we wait too long, we aren't strong enough any more, (well - pretty and perky enough really) to wheel it in.

So should we just erase that stupid phrase from our vocabulary entirely or what!
And while we're at it.. "You have to kiss many frogs before you find your prince"... eeewww - but why?? Why do we have to dig through the trash to find the good stuff? And being a ex-girlfriend to a couple of guys.. well most of us are someone's ex.. that makes us frogs! So what does that mean? That the princes and princess's out there are only the ones that have never been kissed, and ... well what about the one doing the kissing.. just doesn't make sense.. so another phrase to toss in the bin...

So according to the phrases of love, we should be looking for a frogfish prince.. doesn't sound very handsome now does it... so lets keep the animal kingdom out of the love-finding references from now on.

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Things to do list.....

Hmmmm..... "things to do before something" lists, seems to be a good film topic.. and book topic, and blogs for that matter.... But I don't know if I think they are a good idea and a motivator, or a really bad idea and a stress-factor...

I mean, you don't really need a list - The best plan for your life is "live life to the fullest"... But I guess that "the fullest" can be hard to cope with.. what is it, and when do you know, if you have achieved it?

So I guess I might be pro-"things to do before something" lists.. as long as they don't involve unrealistic demands and wishes... "Before I turn 25 I want to marry the prince of Sweden".... mmmm would have been nice though.. he is a handsome fella.

As I am approaching 30, I find myself in the situation where I feel like I have to have had a list of "Things to do before I turn 30".... And I am pretty sure it would have involved marriage and kids, but I am in the lucky position that there is not such a list, and I don't have to feel a defeat for not finishing it.
On the other side, I am in a pretty low and depressing place of my life at the moment ( well, drowning in self-pity anyway), so a few motivators couldn't hurt.

So I have been going over what I would like to achieve before I turn 30 - in kind of realistic measures of cause. I have about 7 months left.

1) A place of my own to live ( Should be possible once I get some funds again)

2) A Apprenticeship in an office - or at least a job (There ought to be a job out there somewhere!)

3) The possibility of a romance - that's not too much to ask is it... (come out come out where ever you are...)

4) Get off my sorry behind and see old friends. (How hard can it be to drag myself out for coffee)

That should be possible... Or at least motivational... diets and promises of working out will have to wait till I have the basics covered...

A new start needs a new tune - the fabulous 30's have begun ;)